Adopting a child is a significant decision that has a lasting impact on all parties involved. When it comes to adopting older children, the process can often be more difficult due to life experiences that the child has already had previously. If you want to help older children cope when welcoming them into your home and family, there are a few necessary steps to take.
Honor Their Background
Make it a point to honor the background of the child that you’re adopting to ensure that they feel more at home and don’t have to let go of their past. You can consider hanging photos of their loved ones in their room or put certain items on display that honors their nationality.
Older children who are adopted have often been through a lot while in the foster care system, which means that they may have a difficult time trusting you once they’re in your care. Have patience through the process and take baby steps when it comes to establishing respect and trusting with one another. Your actions will speak louder than your words, making it necessary to be consistent with your behavior to show that you can be trusted.
Practice Unconditional Acceptance
It can be easy for older adopted children to struggle with feeling accepted or valued due to their inconsistency they’ve experienced in the past. Make the decision to accept who they are and communicate in on a consistent basis. Remind them that they’re a part of the family and that they have as much value as other children in the home. You’ll also need to provide them with as much attention and time as other kids who are in your care.
Adoption is not only for babies to have a fulfilling life from the beginning if the mother can’t take care of them but it is also for older children who need someone to care for them. One of the most important parts of adopting a child is to provide stability to ensure that they can feel at ease and safe in their new home. You’ll need to make the stability evident by creating a consistent schedule that they can get used to and stand by your word, whether you promise to take them on a vacation or you say you’ll be available when they need you.
Preparing yourself to adopt an older child will allow the process to go smoother. By doing what you can to support the child, you can help them to feel at home and a part of the family.
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